Self Love - The Importance Of Saying No
One of the most important ways to practice self love, is setting boundaries and learning to say no.
The concept is simple, but when it comes to putting it into practice things can get tricky. There is an element of guilt in saying no. Thoughts like "I should go to that dinner", or "I should say yes to coffee with a friend" come into play. All too often we feel a responsibility, or obligation to say yes to events, to helping that friend, to doing a favour that we maybe don't have the energy for. Why do we feel this way? Surely if a friend had too much on their plate and couldn't say yes to meeting you for dinner, you would completely understand. But when the roles are reversed, we put so much pressure on ourselves to be superwomen who can do it all. The reality is of course, that when we are over-tired, over-stressed, and overwhelmed we cannot give these people and commitments our best selves. You cannot pour from an empty cup.
No one is going to set these boundaries for us - it is our responsibility to set them for ourselves. It's up to us, to realise when we just need some time to ourselves, to reset, to refill our cups. There are plenty of ways to do this of course. Anything from taking a hot bath, or going for a walk alone, doing a face mask, or going to a yoga class (or watching a youtube video and doing it from home!) - all of these things involve taking some time and energy that we so willingly give out to others, and giving it to your SELF.
I challenge you this week, to take out some time out to practice self care, and reset yourself. This might be a whole day, or it might just be an hour. No matter how big or small your self care practice might be, do it with love.